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Thinking through kids
Olumide Abimbola
Act One
A couple of days ago I joined one of my friends to Buy Klonopin Xanax pick up his daughter at the kindergarten. This was the first time I was seeing her in close to Buy Klonopin Xanax two years; the last time I saw and carried her she was just about 4 months old. Of course, she didn’t remember me, so I had Buy Klonopin Xanax to find a way to charm myself into her favour. The first steps involved me smiling sheepishly, talking gently and Buy Klonopin Xanax offering my arms to her. She refused all the advances, despite the Buy Klonopin Xanax very hearty encouragement from her father.
We left the kindergarten and headed for a café, where Buy Klonopin Xanax my friend pulled out a lunch box filled with grapes. It was obviously something she loves very much. Still trying to Buy Klonopin Xanax get her attention, I took one of the grapes and offered it Buy Klonopin Xanax to her. She, as I suspected, refused. But then, something else happened that Buy Klonopin Xanax got me thinking about reciprocity and economic exchange. As I was trying to Buy Klonopin Xanax ingratiate myself in her favour without much success, her father gave her a Buy Klonopin Xanax grape to give to me. She collected the grape and passed it Buy Klonopin Xanax on. Then he gave me a grape to offer her; this Buy Klonopin Xanax time, she accepted it. From then on things went pretty smoothly.
What I took away from Buy Klonopin Xanax this has nothing to do with trust and child psychology, at least not directly. I realized that Buy Klonopin Xanax I just witnessed, from a child, one of the most cardinal things in human economic relations: reciprocity. At that Buy Klonopin Xanax moment, with that little girl, I realized that I was witnessing the Buy Klonopin Xanax early traces of that social characteristic of the human. I could not help but wonder – and Buy Klonopin Xanax this is the part where I need the help of child psychologists – when Buy Klonopin Xanax kids start putting a value to things, what values mean to Buy Klonopin Xanax them and how they relate to values.
Act Two
Another friend’s daughter made her parents promise to Buy Klonopin Xanax get her a Spider-man cake for her third birthday. But all these were to Buy Klonopin Xanax change just shortly before the birthday. Sometime between the day she elicited the Buy Klonopin Xanax promise from her parents and shortly before her birthday she changed her mind. She had Buy Klonopin Xanax just joined a kindergarten, where she learnt about the differences between what Buy Klonopin Xanax a boy should want and what a girl should want.
She learnt that she liked pink – something she did not know until she joined the Buy Klonopin Xanax kindergarten. She also found out that she wanted to be a Buy Klonopin Xanax princess. Her mother started getting requests concerning pink dresses for princesses. Boys were supposed to Buy Klonopin Xanax be knights. In fact, one of her male friends was waving a Buy Klonopin Xanax sword, slicing the air, when I met him. Of course, her relationship with Spider-man changed; she wanted a Buy Klonopin Xanax princess cake instead. She had learnt that Spider-man is for boys and Buy Klonopin Xanax princess for girls.
This got me thinking about how children are Buy Klonopin Xanax socialised by each other. Someone mentioned to me that children are Buy Klonopin Xanax very serious conformists, and that kids always strive to be Buy Klonopin Xanax like their mates, never wanting to unduly stand out. How many kids have Buy Klonopin Xanax quickly forgotten languages they acquired while living abroad because they are Buy Klonopin Xanax afraid that their mates would make fun of their difference? How many kids have Buy Klonopin Xanax joined in making fun of other kids who look like they might not ‘belong’? Of course, prejudices that Buy Klonopin Xanax kids display are picked from adults; and it is presumable that Buy Klonopin Xanax the children who are the first to bring the idea of gender roles and Buy Klonopin Xanax differences into the kindergarten somehow got it from adults.
It is Buy Klonopin Xanax interesting to watch kids learn from their parents and from each other. But perhaps the Buy Klonopin Xanax most important thing is what one learns from watching them learn: the Buy Klonopin Xanax importance of socialisation, and of being social.
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